Wednesday, January 7, 2009

Day 3--Mommy Makeover Bootcamp

If today is your first visit to Mommy Makeover Bootcamp then start here. Notebook time! Today it's all about the kids. So under the heading "kids" I want you to do so serious thinking. Stop, breathe, think. What type of relationship do you have with your kids? Do you spend time(play) with them? Know what their hopes/dreams are for the future? Know what their interests are? Do you listen when they talk? I mean really listen. BE HONEST. This work doesn't do any good if you're lying to yourself.

Now, what type of relationship do you want to have? Think back to your childhood. What would you have changed from when you grew up? More alone time with your parents? Sharing your interests? Needed encouragement even though they didn't agree? What type of mom do you want to be? I'm not saying be supermom. I'm saying that when the kids are grown that they still come around (willingly) and that you have no regrets about their childhood.

Secondly, what type of grownups do you want your kids to be? What characteristics should they have? Responsibility, honesty, compassion, financial awareness, good personal relationships, basic household skills of cleaning-cooking and laundry?

Do you portray these things? I know I still struggle with my witness to them just as a human being. You are their teacher and their role model. Now is the time to not only work on yourself as a person but to figure out how to teach these things to your children.

Challenge: No nagging, yelling, screaming, talking down to your kids, comparing them to their siblings (or anyone else). PLUS-you must tell each of your children something you love about them-EVERYDAY. It can be something as simple as "You are such a good helper to make your bed." or how beautiful they are or how cute or how much you love their laugh/smile.

Journal:
List 5 things you like/love about EACH of your children.

1 comments:

Michael said...

I found a good article about the pros, cons and cost of a mommy makeover at http://www.itriagehealth.com/health-blog/mommy-wants-a-makeover. It also has a good video on it too.